Want and Compromise

This goes out to all of the folks out there who need to be reminded that every choice has a consequence- just like every cause has an effect.

We have all been set up to want more for ourselves. Some people prefer a simple life but the simple life doesn't mean it's without want. Humans WANT! That's just part of it. It's okay to want. But one thing you must remember is that what you want will always have to come with a compromise. And are you willing to lose in order to gain?

Here are three examples of want and compromise:

TRAVELING SOLDIER- MORE...
1. There are people who have a traveling heart. They can't seem to stay in one place for too long. This can be taken physically, or figuratively. Often times, it's because they just can't seem to find a place to call "home." Their golden ticket MUST be just around the corner.
A man, we will call Hank, grew up with a few odds and ends. He was never extremely spoiled but he definitely got a better life than some. He has a good mama who loved him unconditionally and would give her son more than he probably deserved at times. One day, Hank was finally a man and went off to see the world. He joined the military and set out to be "somebody." He had it in his mind that he wasn't already "somebody." So, while he was in the military, he met a woman. She was hard headed and loving and stubborn but she would do just about anything for Hank. Then one day, Hank left the military and married that woman, and took another job. That job required lots of traveling and lots of compromise. But in the mix of all that compromise, there was a lot of want. Want that not even Hank's wife could fulfill. That man would get a lot of money for his traveling job and he had a lot of stuff... But no matter how hard Hank's wife tried, she never felt like she was "enough" because what Hank wanted was always MORE. He would tell people he never had that stuff when he was a kid and so that was why he deserved it. Hank's wife finally decided that compromising for Hank's wants just wasn't what SHE deserved. Yet..even to this day, even though Hank has a good heart and gave to many... Hank still wants MORE.


MY WAY....
2. Unfortunately, a lot of people set out for a plan for their future and they follow it so completely to the T that they don't even realize what they had to give up in order to get it. Here's Julie's story-
Julie was a small town girl. She grew up in a home where being "invisible" was the safest bet. She never had much growing up, other than what she needed. And even then... it was slim. One day, Julie met a boy who seemed like he was goin' places! Oh she was in heaven with this boy. No matter how much he did wrong by her, she felt like he was her ticket to a better life. Julie married that boy fresh out of high school and they moved far away from that small town. Now, as she started to get a taste of "better," her want pile started to add up. No matter how big her house was, how nice her clothes were, how many shoes she owned or how many dollar signs she found... she wasn't satisfied. She demanded her life to be a certain way, every day. She started to expect a specific "better" life that her love life took a nasty turn. Julie learned what kind of wrongs her husband had done by her and she tried to ignore it. But one day, Julie decided to leave that man and she returned to that small town. But since then, she's had to rebuild her "better" life. Although Julie had a plan for her future, it didn't work out the way she wanted. But as life throws you lemons, Julie learned how to make lemonade. While she still struggles with her "my way" mentality and she still has a very large want pile... She has learned how to appreciate the effort and work it takes to EARN a better life without expectations. Julie gave up dignity and self-respect in order to have what she wanted but in the end, life teaches you that your set plans.. that "your way"... just doesn't happen like you expect it to.



I LOVE LOVE....
3. Sometimes a person's biggest want is just to be loved. They go after affection and attention like an addiction. But what do they compromise when they chase after this kind of want?
Gemma is a woman with gumption! She was raised in a broken home but she grew up spirited, protective and straight forward. She also grew up with feelings of abandonment and neglect. Gemma took on bad habits and brought herself around people who took advantage of her. All she wanted was to be loved. To truly be loved... She wanted someone she can trust completely. A soul mate. It's been said by some that when you give up your virtue to too many people, each one of them takes a piece of your soul. Well, as Gemma gains experience in the relationship department she meets a man who makes her truly believe she is everything he ever wanted. She would follow him anywhere. That man one day gives her reason to doubt and that doubt turned into reality. Gemma was broken inside. She had given herself up completely to a man she thought was her soul mate. The person she had been looking for all along. So when another man came along. One who wanted to heal her in every way, wanted to be the manly man she needed (because she was still a stubborn, straight forward woman) she was cold and distant. She cried a lot. This man tried everything to break her wall down so he could prove to her that he was worth loving... but she wouldn't have it. She decided she would live for herself only and never trust that someone will stick around. She sabotaged her future with this man in order to say "I was right" and to give herself more reason to believe that real love.. just doesn't exist. Fortunately for Gemma, that man stuck around and loved her so incredibly deep that while Gemma had to get her own reality checks and to heal herself of her previous wounds... He waited. He wasn't a peach, mind you... he messed up pretty badly too but he also knew that Gemma... was too special to give up on. Gemma had to compromise herself in order to get what she wanted... Eventually.. what she wanted... found her while she learned to find herself.


The goal of this blog post was to teach people that we have to be careful how badly we want things. Sometimes, just giving up a little control over what you want is a good thing. Because we can all have something to strive for.. but it will come when you are ready- not always when you expect it. And even once you get it... are you willing to compromise what you already had?


Life is a learning experience- ALWAYS... take the good with the bad but be willing to appreciate the good along with it.. otherwise you will always be compromising.


Have a good day ya'll!!
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