The Sword in the Stone

Okay. I've felt like lately my words have been yelling at me from the inside. While normally I would wish it were words toward my novel (I am currently in the process of writing a trilogy), lately what I've been saying has been receiving many compliments.
So, in lieu of this insight as of late... This post will be a self-structured one. I decided to go off the relationship with others topic and work on relationship with self.

I hope that most of you reading this blog know the movie (the one the title is named after). There are plenty of versions of King Arthur, but this one is one of my favorites.

Something sparked my mind today on the fact that we all have come to our own unique "hard place." Some of you are still in it. We are all placed in a troubled present so that one day our future may grow from it. Some of you have already found your progressive future. There are so many though, who do not get a better future because they are often repeating their non-progressive behaviors. But there are a few... just a few, who are lucky enough to meet their "sword in the stone."

What is it that led them there?

Well, what led Arthur to it?

A cooky ol' wizard you say?

Well, what if I told you that every single person is an "Arthur in the making?"

During the movie, Merlin told "Wart" that he was meant for great things. Wart kept arguing with Merlin. "I'm not..." was often used in his sentences. He followed Merlin but even after he was crowned a king, he was afraid of what that kind of responsibility would bring him. Wart was truly afraid of his destiny.

Often times, LIFE (AKA Merlin) will bring us to our destiny and we are too afraid to pull it out of the stone because of our fear of the responsibility. We tell ourselves, "I'm not..." to argue our way out of it. Instead of "fight" we turn into "flight" mode.

The few who meet their sword are the ones who are ready to pull it out of the stone. In reality, we are all given a destiny... but we must be willing to accept and assert ourselves into it before we can ever benefit from it.

Free yourselves from the fear of the responsibility and gain a strength in knowing that your sword is awaiting you.


I hope you liked my tid bit for the day!

Have a good night!

Kristi

Did You Pick a "Jacob?"

Alright everyone,
It's been awhile since I've done a post but I have found that a lot of people lately are dealing with a very similar situation. Each are obviously different scenarios but each have their main issue- They think they have picked their Jacob instead of their Edward.
Now, if you are a Twilight fan then you know what I'm already referring to. If not, here's the short version:

Choices:
Jacob: All around nice guy. Protective. She doesn't have to change for him. Challenges her to be the stronger version of herself. Allows her to be herself, as is. The "Safe" bet. The guy who only triggers her flutter button (you know, that butterfly effect in your stomach... stay PG folks!) during times when she NEEDS him. He often turns into a best friend status quickly and usually never leaves it.

Edward: Dangerous. Possessive. Passionate. Not really all that healthy for her but in the strangest of ways... they are perfect compliments of each other. He drives her to grow and become the person who she's meant to be. He will test her because he's not all that emotionally stable at the beginning. In reality, she is the stronger half  (emotionally and mentally). He tries to tell her what to do more than once and she will fight him on it every step of the way. He doesn't abuse her verbally or physically but he has a tendency to make her cry a couple times. They often become addicted to each other and usually feel that without the other, they will not survive.

In The End: 
(Spoilers maybe?) She ends up choosing Edward. Is this the right choice? Maybe for the book... But in reality... In the grand scheme of how men actually work... is Edward the right choice?

The Point:
The point to this post is that a few women I know are stuck with a Jacob and they can't seem to take their minds off a potential Edward. I say potential because in reality, women just want to be swept up off their feet. They want to feel the the flutter... Jacob, who remains the friend... just doesn't seem to trigger that flutter nearly as much as time goes. And for many women who haven't found their "Edward" yet, they come across a few potentials who put them through the ringer. They indulge in the need and the weakness and the vulnerability. They get stuck in the "not being emotionally stable" part and often times that potential never leaves that state.. So, the girl is stuck with a broken heart, a lost Jacob and a need again for the flutter.

What To Do:
If you think your man isn't triggering the flutter... you either need to help him along by triggering his or telling him some of the things you like. Help him get to know you again. If he doesn't want to try and he really is pushing you away... there are only three possible reasons why.

1. He gave up a long time ago trying to be your Edward because he happens to be a lot smarter than you took him for and realized you wanted more and he wasn't cutting it. "So why bother?" comes to his mind.

2. He is completely blind to everything and is resentful himself. So you both are in the same boat...wishing the other would fulfill the flutter. Or...

3. He isn't in love with you. And maybe it's time to come to terms that you aren't in love with him. Do not invest in a man who wants to give you his all if you are going to be looking for "all" in someone else one day.

Love is selfless... it's accepting everything about that person on the off days. It's allowing them to be themselves and appreciating them for it. It's being unconditional. It's being willing to compromise on things that you can't always control....

No matter what type of love you are looking for, just know that your heart is precious. Passion isn't always forever like a book. It's nice to think about and it's certainly nice to runaway in but not every day you are going to be smiles and giggles. Not every day are you going to be the best of friends either. The ultimate choice is being with someone who fits you perfectly (it doesn't matter if he is a Jacob, an Edward, or  a Bob for that matter). Just remember, if you are always looking for a flaw... you will always find one.

You never know.. your man could be the perfect combo of the two and you just needed to let your all be his. :)