Every Mile a Memory

"I love him/her... I do... I mean, he's/she's my best friend. I know he's/she's a great person. I just don't know how to be crazy in love with him/her like he/she deserves."

"It's not you, it's me..."

"I'm just not IN LOVE with you."

Why do you think today's society has come to these kinds of phrases more and more? Why do you think we are always searching for something else?

LET'S START FROM THE BEGINNING....
You were either one of two types of children- the kind that got told "I love you" so much that it didn't mean as much as it should, or you didn't get told "I love you" enough so you don't understand its sincerity.
Love is not something we play with. It's an emotion that surpasses our comprehension and yet it thrives within us, needing to be nurtured and developed into a mature state of being. Love is complex and yet it is simple. It has many layers but it does not need it's layers to survive.

NOW- HOW DOES IT MANIFEST...
As we grow up, our lives become more complicated- no.. scratch that... WE become more complicated. We take that love and abuse it for need and selfishness. We reach out to wrong choices to fulfill something that is missing.. we take love for granted and try to manifest it into our own standard... when love is supposed to be free and UN-complicated. We indulge in relationships that are unhealthy for us to find a source of nourishment that, in reality, is far from nourishing. We place others hearts at risk due to our own self-pity, our lack of self-worth, and our own inability to see love for what it really is.... LOVE.

We hold onto old romanticized memories to make us feel like we MUST have had love back then.. This love isn't the same as we used to have. Or... we try to make memories with another person while we hold onto our partner (hoping that one of those relationships will make sense). We are lacking something.. and guess what.. Oftentimes, it's a PERSONAL problem. "But they just aren't as loving as they once were.."- if this is the case, then you need to go back to my previous post "He's No Prince Charming."

HOW DO WE FIX IT...
Reality check people- you have to first love yourself before you can truly and maturely love another human being.
Stop the cycle. LEARN from your mistakes. Say your sorry and mean it. OWN up to your selfishness and learn to find inner peace. Then... go out and make new memories. Make ones with your current partner if that partner really wants your love and truly wants to love you too. (Because guess what, chances are they too are dealing with personal demons)
Grow TOGETHER, not apart... The choice is always yours and love is always a part of you.. it just needs to be nourished.. by a healthy environment, a healthy relationship and a healthy YOU....

This is a post of learning to take one day at a time but not taking each day for granted.
Go out and be great!
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