Worthy

It has come to my attention a lot lately that people consider themselves quite unworthy of happiness and blessings. I started to look back at other "worthy" concepts and found a huge disappointment staring back at me. Guess what... WE as individuals have been told this since we were brought up.
Now, what I am about to say.. please do not take it out of context. Also.. I am a believer in Christ and I do love the Lord and will utilize His name in this one. (For you nonbelievers, this is still useful so please hang out)

Now that that's out of the way..

ROOT OF WORTHY-

1. Often times people stop going to church because they don't like being told they don't deserve being loved by God but that He loves them mercifully. Many churches are seen for using the fear tactic to maintain order and tithe... Some churches use the fear tactic to initiate your own personal level of lowliness. To humble you into submission. I frown at this behavior because while I am all for humility, no one should ever be lowered in a way that makes them feel they are not special, or important, or worthy. God did not create us to be proud and arrogant either. But like Ying and Yang, when good is created there is always bad to match it.  (Ps. Not all churches are bad. It's the bad ones that made the rep though.) :(


2. This brings me to my other observation. Rebellion. People don't like getting told "no," "you can't," "You don't deserve it," "you aren't worthy," "learn your place in this world," "Let the smart people handle it."- Alright folks.. Some rebellion is for the good as it brings people a reminder that they are capable and good and important. But it  can turn ugly quick because now it's anger, and zero tolerance initiating the behavior. This is dangerous and I'm surprised people actually feel that to keep order, people must feel low and unworthy. To keep a relationship under control, they must keep the other person submissive... which in turn can either be a power struggle or an abusive relationship. How is this healthy? But yet, so much of it exists because this is what people are taught.

3. Last root I've observed so far- Many parents get so frustrated with their children not doing what they are supposed to that they revert to a negative "Can't do anything right" motto. It's destructive. Don't do it. If your kid is not respecting you or themselves by acting out, look toward how it might be your instruction and construction. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. If YOU don't like being told you're low... then know that your children also don't. (Now, this is not saying don't discipline. It's necessary to help us grow from children to adults by understanding that if we do bad things we are going to receive consequences).

This is just a few things to think about what triggers our feelings of unworthiness. Once we have found it... try to change the cycle. Don't be a person who tells others they are bad, unworthy or don't deserve to be blessed... Be a person who guides people toward love. In my world, God is love. He's not going to tell you, "I don't have to love you because you are unworthy... But I love you anyway..." No... So don't teach others this concept.

Have a good and blessed night!

<3 Kristi